LOVELIFE is my brand and my mission.
'What's life without love?' sums up my approach to everything.
We spend a few years on this beautiful planet and I believe that if we learn to embrace love in all of its beauty, intimacy, sensuality and excitement we can really, truly love life.
It's our relationships that are key to who we are and our happiness. Without sounding like I've found the key to a happy life, I think we'd all agree that if we're happy in our relationships, we have great sex lives and we're connecting on deeper levels with those we love, then life is pretty damn good! Imagine if everyone in the world was in love and having great sex - what a happier and saner place it would be!
That's why I’ve dedicated my life to discovering what really makes relationships work both in and out of the bedroom.
I am a Sex & Relationship Geek - completely and unabashedly fascinated by sex, love and intimacy in all its aspects from the biological to the psychological to the spiritual. As well as an enormous amount of formal study, I’ve done masses of personal research, and most importantly I’ve spent many thousands of hours talking with people about sex and relationships - my private clients, participants in my workshops and retreats, mingling with people after giving presentations and media appearances and in the wider world.
There aren't too many people in the world with this level of insight into what’s going on in people’s minds and bedrooms... I know what really does work and what doesn’t.
We live in a society that’s pretty screwed up sexually, so many people are confused, misinformed and struggling with their sexuality. Which is such a shame because sex is a celebration of life and our sexual energy is our life energy. So I’m here to be a ‘light in the darkness’ to help guide people to fulfill their sexual potential and experience all the love, connection and freedom that comes with a whole, healthy sexuality.
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One of the leading voices in what she calls the ‘third wave’ of sexuality - beyond shame, beyond sleaze, towards meaningful
sex - Jacqueline Hellyer is a sex and relationship guru who is influencing minds and bedrooms across the globe.
In a world where fake sex sells anything but real sex is hard to know, Jacqueline brings her depth of knowledge, wisdom and genuine love to help people access their real, positive, life-enhancing sexuality, for greater well-being, closer relationships and happier lives.
Jacqueline is an accredited Psychosexual Therapist with the Society of Australian Sexologists (SAS) - one of
only a handful of practitioners in Australia with this level of certification; and is a Professional Certified Coach,
with the International Coach Federation (ICF).
Her academic qualifications include a Bachelor of Science in biochemistry and human sciences, a Graduate Diploma in Applied Science, a Bachelor of Arts in languages and literature, and a Master of Science in Sexual Health, is currently undertaking a Masters in Transpersonal Psychology, plus countless professional shorter courses, including the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT). She is also highly knowledgable and experienced in Tantra, Taoism and alternative sexual practices.
During the week she runs a thriving private practice as a Psychosexual Therapist and Coach helping individuals and couples through
sex therapy and relationship coaching, with thousands of hours of client contact. On weekends she frequently runs her highly acclaimed
retreats for women and couples in the Blue Mountains near Sydney and in Bali; plus the popular monthly Tantric Lounge in Sydney,
having run well over 100 workshops and retreats in all.
Jacqueline is frequently in the media, particularly ABC Radio's JJJ and Nightlife programs; she writes a column for News Ltd's Body+Soul; and has her own Love Shack segment on Channel 7's The Morning Show.
She has written three books: Great Sex After Kids - survival guide, Sex Secrets for Busy People and Seven Sex Goddesses - sexual re-awakening for today’s woman. Her LoveLife Blog contains around 300 articles, all of which are available as podcasts on iTunes. She also has broadcast 38 hours of her weekly radio show, The Tantric Lounge (currently on hold as she is busy with other projects).
Jacqueline is a gifted presenter, running private workshops and speaking to organisations and groups around the world. She also frequently provides sex and relationship expertise in the media.
Currently she is turning this wealth of knowledge into digital online products and courses for individuals and couples.
When not busy savings love lives, Jacqueline lives with her family in Sydney, and enjoys yoga, meditation, tango, gardening, cryptic crosswords, and of course, sex.
I came out of the womb questioning. Apparently I was a ‘strange child’ who asked ‘strange questions’ and read ‘strange books’. From my earliest age I felt like I was the child pointing out that the emperor was wearing no clothes and was always puzzled and fascinated by people and their lack of awareness.
As a child I knew that when I grew up I wanted to be a warrior, a scientist and a priest.
I have, essentially, become all three:
I studied the martial arts extensively from my mid-teens through to my early 30s, becoming particularly adept at Aikido, the Art of Harmony. But even as a child I’d set myself tasks to build my will-power, and I’ve never been one to back down when I thought there was injustice or narrow-mindedness.
To do my work in the field of sex and intimacy has definitely required a warrior spirit - it’s not easy to face so much opposition and ignorance and still keep going.
I feel existence is a miracle and I am endlessly fascinated by it. Over the years I have done three academic science degrees, and believe strongly in the scientific method. I also believe there is a lot that science is yet to discover. I see no discrepancy between spirituality and science, and love that modern science is reinforcing ancient spiritual wisdoms. I consider myself a ‘Scientific Mystic’.
I had a calling to be a priest, and was shocked as a young child to discover I couldn’t be one because I was a girl. That made no sense to me at all. So I quickly lost interest in religion and continued to explore and study all sorts of spiritual, metaphysical and philosophical understandings, and continue to do so - it’s a life-long work (probably many lifetime’s work). As a therapist and educator, I feel that my work is a calling, and that calling is to help people become more whole and be their beautiful authentic selves. which is essentially the work of a true priest.
After school I studied biochemistry and human sciences at university. The former was a traditional ‘hard’ science subject and the latter a multidisciplinary science course. At that stage I had intended doing research into human potential but the professors felt my views were too outlandish - I thought that the brain could change and that food affected our health - both topics that are considered valid now but back in the 80s had me labelled a hippy herbal fruitcake who’d probably been smoking too much weed…
So I changed track and did graduate studies in environmental science because as a new field it was looking for open-minded creative thinkers. So I worked in that field for many years. But, as much as I care for the environment and have strong ecological sensibilities, it was never my passion. So, three children and another degree or two later I decided to change.
Everyone thought I was mad to leave a very successful career and move into the then quite unknown field of Life Coaching. A few years later I wrote my first book ‘Great Sex After Kids’, did a Masters in Sexual Health to qualify as a Sex Therapist…and I haven’t looked back!
I was definitely ‘guided’ into specialising in sexuality, the universe wanted me to head in this direction, and after my initial surprise I was quite happy to go there as sexuality has always been a topic of interest for me at so many levels - the physical, historical, anthropological, philosophical, social, relational, and spiritual.
I feel the spiritual in particular is of interest, and a necessity in our current stage of development as a species and culture. After such a long period of suppression, we are only just now starting to see sexuality as a fundamental part of ourselves as integrated, holistic, transpersonal beings. I have always had an intrinsic understanding of this concept, and have been drawn to studying Tantric and Taoist sexual philosophies and practices.
According to a shaman I had a session with a few years ago, in a past life I was a Tibetan Lama who was investigating the use of sexual energy for spiritual growth. Unfortunately in that life I inadvertently traumatised a number of women and so in shame I ceased my work. In this life I’m to continue the work - which explains why I’m female and why it took me so long to accept this calling. Whether this is true or not, it is a good analogy and describes the evolution of my work very well!
Now I have embraced my calling fully and I have an exceptional life working with couples and individuals clinically and in workshops and retreats, as well as through my online courses, writings and media appearances, to help modern people understand the importance of an integrated and healthy sexuality for fulfilment and meaning in life.
TestimonialsSometimes the love comes back as praise...
Here I humbly present some of what people have said about me.
Note: Given the nature of my work and to protect people’s privacy, I’m not giving names - please trust me that these are all authentic!
"You are one of the most amazing women I have ever met. I love your warmth, openness and wonderful insights.”
"You have such a fabulous gift for taking all the awkwardness out of sexuality and turning it into such a lovely and beautiful thing to embrace."
"You are inspirational in Australia and beyond. There are an indefinable number of people whose lives have been changed as a result of your intelligence, study, courage and insight to say it how it is.”
"What you give to others is such a beautiful gift you’re an inspiration to everyone around you.”
“You model such a vibrant and positive sexuality“
"You are awesome and I cannot sing your praises any higher!”
"You've really made a difference to my life and to me for the better. I am a better person."
"Thank you for all your boundless healing energy.”
"I feel privileged to have shared your wisdom.”
"I often reflect on what a wonderful person you are and what a beautiful gift you share with others. I love your passion for helping others and one day I hope I gain enough wisdom to help others in your footsteps. I will continually look out for others in need and highly recommend you where ever I go, as I think this world needs so many more amazing people like yourself to uplift and brighten the lives of those in need.”
"Thank you for your honesty, openness, wisdom, guidance, love and cuddles. I am very fortunate to have your input and I think you are amazing.”
"Thank you so much for your professionalism, passion and dedication – your honesty and integrity shine.”
"I've seen so many therapists but you're amazing. I come out of each session so much more self-aware and enlightened."
"The empowerment you provide people with is inspirational, almost life changing and the beauty of it is that you don't give them power, you don't even create it, it just simply manifests itself through the opportunities you so strategically present.”
"Jacqueline, you are so extraordinarily professional. I’ve done a lot of courses in this area and yours are so far above the rest in terms of content and presentation."
“You are awesome, so open and easy going.”
"I very much appreciate the work that you’re doing with its emphasis on playfulness, generosity of spirit and all round fulfilment. "
“You are a wonderful and natural teacher.”
"Your presentation was fabulous. You have real presence.”
"You've been the most helpful and beneficial therapist I've seen. I can into the closed box and feel what I need to feel. Thank-you."
“You’re the most confronting person I’ve ever felt so comfortable with!”
“You’re amazing - friendly, approachable and inspiring!”
"Thanks for the amazing and high-quality work you do. Your publicly available materials and books have significantly impacted our lives. The Tantric Lounge podcast is world-leading sex ed. "
"You are an extremely professional, lively, bubbly, energetic and inspiring lady."
“Jacqueline knows her stuff, is efficient and focused, and above all, a lot of fun!”
"You truly have a gift Jacqueline!”
"I've never felt so comfortable with someone so confronting!”
" I had no idea someone like you existed, I'm so glad you do and that I found you!”
"I was blown away by how brave you are to do this kind of thing … and how gorgeous the energy around you is.”
“Jacqueline is an inspiration!”
"Thanks Jacqueline for your leadership, knowledge and guidance."
"You have opened up my eyes, heart and mind! I cannot express enough my gratitude for that."
“There really should be more of you on the planet!”
"My sessions with Jacqueline were like a great conversation with a very wise sister/friend. She helped me through the end of my 25 year marriage with compassion and insight, giving me perspective, coping skills and a gentle push where required. I’m so grateful to have had her wise counsel."
"I just wanted to let you know how grateful I am that you came into my life. Without your guidance, love and warmth there is no way that I would have been brave enough to break away from the old and step toward the future.
Thank you for being my feminine guide.
Thank you for being my energy guide.
Thank you for guiding me and sharing wisdom and love.
You will always have a space in my heart no matter where I am or who I become."
"Thank you again for your help, especially in the early days of my journey. I can barely recognise the person I was then, when I was starting out on this adventure."
"I want to let you know how grateful I am for who you are and what you do!"